8 years of child molestation, then PCOS, Parisha Dutta’s story might help other women. The rise of “PCOS” in young women has been a pressing issue for many women. The condition is also known as Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and is considered to be a health risk for those afflicted by it. Parisha Dutta kindly volunteered to tell her story of abuse and how to manage PCOS to a certain extent.
PCOS: Diagnosis and Effects
PCOS often goes undiagnosed because of the lack of clinical symptoms and various ranges in severity. The most common symptom is irregular menstrual cycles, although some PCOS patients may not have periods at all.
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome is the most common cause of infertility in the US and affects about 1 out of every 10 women between the ages of 18-44. Still, people are unaware of how dangerous it can be. To dig more into the issue, we spoke to a girl who was diagnosed with PCOS in her early 20s and managed it well by taking enough precautions. Let us speak to Parisha Dutta and know her story.
PCOS is the most common cause of infertility in the US and affects about 1 out of every 10 women between the ages of 18-44
8 Long Years of Child Molestation
I’m Parisha Dutta and I am from Kolkata. I graduated as an English major with honors and I’m currently working as a writer and poet. I also paint, sing and record my music with renowned directors. However, the journey of evolving from an introvert wasn’t easy.
My struggle started when I was only 8 years old. We were at a family function when one of my cousins tried molesting me. We cousins used to sleep beside each other in a room whenever our family would gather together for a function or meeting.
Suddenly, he held me and began to stroke my body. I felt uncomfortable but I didn’t know what it was as I had no idea anything like this even existed. When I questioned him he said “It’s a usual thing. Everyone does it. You are my little sister and I’m expressing my love for you. Why are you finding it odd?” After hearing his words, I shrugged off my doubts though he asked me to stay cautious and not to reveal it in front of anyone. This continued for 8 years until I turned 16.
In my teen years, I realized the truth and I wanted to reveal it to everyone but he threatened me saying “Don’t tell anyone. No one will believe you. We are from the same family. The fact will ruin your reputation.” The worst happened when my mother fell sick and underwent an operation. I had to suppress the truth. Many times, I thought about discussing it with my family but he’d always blackmail me.
The abuse reached a point when I stopped thinking about confining it to anyone. I accepted it as my cruel faith.
Dealing with the Pain
To get rid of negative emotions that built up over 8 Years of molestation, I started writing poems online. My friend encouraged me to create a Facebook page so I could share my work with everyone. My first poetry ‘Prostitute’ earned a lot of views and 30,000 people followed my page instantly.
The success was good but my mental health was still not stable. I was repressing my pain to a great extent that it ended up affecting my mental and physical well-being.
Firstly, I developed anxiety and PTSD. Later, I was diagnosed with PCOS and Alopecia. As a result, I began to gain weight and lose my hair as well. My hairline was receding and I could see patches on my scalp. These sudden changes disturbed me more. At one point, I sensed that I was silently plunging into depression.
To get rid of my fears, insecurities, and anxiety, I went bald. Initially, it was difficult as people would stare at me like I was some alien. Their strange looks did hurt me but I had reached a point where the pain had stopped bothering me. With time, I recollected my emotions and finally decided to confess the truth in front of my parents.
Revealing the Molestation Truth
After 8 years of molestation then PCOS, I was sure nothing could scare me off. I directly went to them and uncovered everything. They were shocked and hurt. They scolded me for not confiding earlier then they confronted the boy and his family. The clash resulted in a fight and my family cut off all the ties with them. They asked if I wanted to file any case against him but I declined.
“For, I believe no punishment is greater than carrying the guilt on one’s shoulders. I wanted him to keep it forever.” Parisha Dutta
Molestation Ends, PCOS Starts
At present, I’m doing great as a writer and I’m slowly moving forward towards a better life.
Though I’d like to give advice to young girls who are suffering or may suffer from PCOS in the future. The disease is hard to manage and can affect their health negatively. Still, it’s possible to manage it if you opt for a healthy lifestyle. Here is my take on it.
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome or PCOS is a common hormonal disorder that affects the reproductive system of women. It causes enlarged ovaries and increased levels of male hormones such as testosterone. This condition can lead to infertility, obesity, and excessive facial hair in women.
PCOS is one of the most common endocrine disorders among women in their childbearing years. The exact cause of this disease is unknown but it appears to be multifactorial with an important genetic component.
The most common symptom in PCOS is irregular menstrual cycles, although some PCOS patients may not have periods at all. Apart from it, patients may experience difficulty in getting pregnant, excess hair growth or loss, weight gain, trouble losing weight, and depression.
The reason PCOS is so difficult to treat is that the condition is both genetic and environmental in nature. However, it is manageable. You should contact a gynecologist or a specialist for physical treatment.
Ways to Cope with PCOS
You can take up three types of diets as per your body type.
Low Glycemic Index (GI) Diet
It involves food like whole grains, nuts, seeds, legumes, starchy vegetables, fruits, and unprocessed carbohydrates. Avoid taking junk, packed, and ready-to-eat food. It will worsen your condition.
This diet includes fatty fish, green leafy vegetables, berries, and other anti-inflammatory food items.
The DASH Diet
The third diet comprises poultry food, vegetables, whole grains, fruits, and low-fat dairy products. However, it is up to your doctor. You should do what they suggest.
This condition can be diagnosed by doing blood tests and ultrasound scans. Pills are available for treating this disease but there is no permanent cure for it yet.
PCOS is one of the most common health issues in women. Diet and lifestyle changes are usually enough to help most women manage their PCOS. Nonetheless, those who have tried these methods and still find no relief may need to consider what modern medicine offers. So consult a doctor and get the treatment done as soon as possible.
Authored by Aashna Chawla
Edited by Yara Fakhoury
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